Okay...I admit it, once in awhile, I read this "Good Guy Swag" blog...I can't help it, he writes so well and I often find myself smiling when I read his blogs. Anyway, I'm going to do a re-blog - which means, I'm going to post the link to his blog on the 10 great qualities you would look for in a wife. Now, why would that interest me? I think it is interesting to see life from the point-of-view of a guy. One thing I have learned is that a guy thinks differently than a gal, almost always.
Click on the link which will re-direct you to the re-blog:
Generally speaking, gender wise that is, that most of us are looking for similar things in a partner, so it's really hard to generalize. Personally, if I were a guy (and clearly I am not), I would look for these five things:
1. Is she attractive on the inside? Sure, beauty is really important, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. How many times have you seen a couple together and you think...really? So, it is true, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which holds hands with chemistry/attraction and all of that, which is definitely important...you can't have that "zing" without the "spark plug to ignite it." That said, however, after years pass on, she better be just as attractive on the inside, because if she's not...you're going to be stuck with someone that doesn't look the same anymore on the inside or the outside.
2. Have fun together. Seriously, if you can't laugh, fart, burp or something along the "real" side of life, it's gonna get awkward. I remember having a date after graduating high school, first date with this guy my mom set me up with...I thought, great, another one of those "nerdy type guys" she typed a college paper for. Turned out, he was so darn cute, I felt like I won the lottery; however, whatever I ate that day gave me terrible gas pains. I spent the whole nite trying to "withhold" and not stink him out of his cute little sportscar, or worse yet, have him hear those vulgar sounds...you know what I mean here, we've all done it and it's not pretty and unless you were blessed with a pair of Double D's, to distract his attention from bodily noises, it's gonna be embarrassing. Anyway, great guy, fun date, went on to have three or four dates, but couldn't get past the fact that he was just way too cute for me..(only a girlfriend would understand what I'm talking about)...couldn't get past the "awkward" stage.
3. Be proud to be seen in public together. Let's face it, if you don't have that, you're going to end up doing things alone and that simply isn't the point here. You may wonder why I put this in the list, but it seriously is important..think about it.
4. You share core beliefs. Okay...on the serious side here, this is a real dealbreaker...in the sense that if you don't share some core beliefs, life is going to be miserable. Along with this comes trustworthiness and loyalty. These are also categories that fall into core beliefs. That doesn't mean you always have to agree - the spice in life comes from being different to a certain degree, that makes life interesting, but I'm talking about the foundation of a person.
5. She loves you, unconditionally. I put this last one on the list from the female perspective - for a reason. A woman who loves you, unconditionally, will be your rock. She'll make you a better person. She'll show you selflessness. She will love you so much, it may scare you...but and this is a BIG but, if she loves you, unconditionally, well that's simply the best feeling in the world. It also ties the whole picture together, like the big red bow on a package.
Anyway, be sure to click on Kris Wolfe's blog - it's well written and a little humorous. All in all, I agree with what he says...and while a guy may have a pretty straight forward list, like "Blonde, hot, sexy, likes football"...I think both genders have a list of qualities they look for in a partner. Some are dealbreakers. If you're already in a relationship, love can overwrite any of the rules...but life is certainly better if we have a partner that loves you, shares your beliefs, you enjoy being around and are proud to be seen together...well that's simply the best. If you're like me, single, over 50, entering the dating world again...it's a whole new territory waiting to be explored...but these things, well they just really don't change, do they.
Click on the link which will re-direct you to the re-blog:
Generally speaking, gender wise that is, that most of us are looking for similar things in a partner, so it's really hard to generalize. Personally, if I were a guy (and clearly I am not), I would look for these five things:
1. Is she attractive on the inside? Sure, beauty is really important, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. How many times have you seen a couple together and you think...really? So, it is true, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which holds hands with chemistry/attraction and all of that, which is definitely important...you can't have that "zing" without the "spark plug to ignite it." That said, however, after years pass on, she better be just as attractive on the inside, because if she's not...you're going to be stuck with someone that doesn't look the same anymore on the inside or the outside.
2. Have fun together. Seriously, if you can't laugh, fart, burp or something along the "real" side of life, it's gonna get awkward. I remember having a date after graduating high school, first date with this guy my mom set me up with...I thought, great, another one of those "nerdy type guys" she typed a college paper for. Turned out, he was so darn cute, I felt like I won the lottery; however, whatever I ate that day gave me terrible gas pains. I spent the whole nite trying to "withhold" and not stink him out of his cute little sportscar, or worse yet, have him hear those vulgar sounds...you know what I mean here, we've all done it and it's not pretty and unless you were blessed with a pair of Double D's, to distract his attention from bodily noises, it's gonna be embarrassing. Anyway, great guy, fun date, went on to have three or four dates, but couldn't get past the fact that he was just way too cute for me..(only a girlfriend would understand what I'm talking about)...couldn't get past the "awkward" stage.
3. Be proud to be seen in public together. Let's face it, if you don't have that, you're going to end up doing things alone and that simply isn't the point here. You may wonder why I put this in the list, but it seriously is important..think about it.
4. You share core beliefs. Okay...on the serious side here, this is a real dealbreaker...in the sense that if you don't share some core beliefs, life is going to be miserable. Along with this comes trustworthiness and loyalty. These are also categories that fall into core beliefs. That doesn't mean you always have to agree - the spice in life comes from being different to a certain degree, that makes life interesting, but I'm talking about the foundation of a person.
5. She loves you, unconditionally. I put this last one on the list from the female perspective - for a reason. A woman who loves you, unconditionally, will be your rock. She'll make you a better person. She'll show you selflessness. She will love you so much, it may scare you...but and this is a BIG but, if she loves you, unconditionally, well that's simply the best feeling in the world. It also ties the whole picture together, like the big red bow on a package.
Anyway, be sure to click on Kris Wolfe's blog - it's well written and a little humorous. All in all, I agree with what he says...and while a guy may have a pretty straight forward list, like "Blonde, hot, sexy, likes football"...I think both genders have a list of qualities they look for in a partner. Some are dealbreakers. If you're already in a relationship, love can overwrite any of the rules...but life is certainly better if we have a partner that loves you, shares your beliefs, you enjoy being around and are proud to be seen together...well that's simply the best. If you're like me, single, over 50, entering the dating world again...it's a whole new territory waiting to be explored...but these things, well they just really don't change, do they.
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