One of the most basic psychological needs, at the core of being human, is the need love and to be loved. As a matter of fact, I would say that love is one of the most powerful forces of nature and life.
Showing and expressing love, however, is easy for some and nearly impossible for others. One of the things that I have always found interesting is that some people seem to have no trouble showing affection and proclaiming their love, while others seem unable to even say the words not to mention show the emotion. It is, however, very important for us to hear those words. Saying “I love you” is good for each of us, but it is particularly important for those we love to hear us say it. Those who have trouble saying those words are often very loving people who, even though they don’t say it, show their love in other ways. Even though there is no doubt that they love you, there is no replacement for hearing those three precious words.
Saying "I Love You" to our children are the three most important words in the universe for keeping them happy, healthy, confident and sure about how their parents feel about them...when there is a deficiency in hearing these wors, children can become unhappy, fearful, nervous, withdrawn, self-conscious, angry and emotionally imbalanced....it is just as important as the air we breathe, the water we drink and the food that nourishes our bodies. When children are very young, we tend to literally ooze with "love you's" which tapers off as children reach around the age of 10 in some cases and is based on a variety of reasons that are as different as each of us are unique to ourselves. Bottom line...there is no age limit or restriction on I love you...coupled with a hug, ten times better.
Sure, it's possible to say "I Love You" too much...some of us have witnessed people who say "I Love You" when it seemed insincere or when "I Love You" and then saying things or doing things that are not consistent acts of kindness... Bottom Line... saying "I love you" should never be insincere or trite whether you realize it or not.
Using terms of endearment don't come easy to everyone...the words "I Love You" are often found in many ways just as important as the spoken word. For example, when the children clean the kitchen without asking, says "I Love you" to their mother!
I used to write love notes to my kids in their lunch boxes on the napkin.."I love you baby, have a great day..xoxoxo, mommie" tucked somewhere between the PB&J and a Jello cup. A busy working mother needs a break too. I can't think of a better way to say "I love you" than when a husband gives his wife time to relax and soak in a hot tub or surprises the family on Friday night after work with pizza for dinner. I remember the summer we moved into our new house on the lake, newly married for the second time my mother forgot to mention we came with "a dog" which can sometimes be a deal-breaker. He welcomed our "third family member", Elizabeth (my water spaniel companion at the age of 15) without skipping a beat. That's love.
So you see, I think those three little words, "I Love You" can be spoken, written or carried out by action to be the most powerful gift on earth to another. In today's world of busy-ness, love can be looked upon as an accessory and easy to take for granted what a gift it truly is to receive and to bestow. Love may not be bright enough to light the end of the tunnel, but it certainly gives us something to walk towards when darkness renders your life.
We are all human, although some of us have a little tougher exterior than others, when cut we all bleed...the simplest at of kindness, respect and compassion to show someone how much you love them can never come at a bad time.
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